I don’t shop for clothes much but what happened to quality?

I hate shopping for clothes, so I don’t do it much if I can avoid it. If I had the money, I would do all my clothes bespoke because nothing fits, or looks good on me.

I know there is childhood trauma behind my dislike of bra shopping and I’ve blogged about that before. I’ve complained about my inability to find jeans that fit but this time around, I’m looking for business clothes.

My new position at work means that I need banker clothes again. Sad thing is that I don’t fit into my old banker clothes. Those classic pieces that are still in style? I’ve put on 12 pounds since I last wore them for work. While I’m working on losing that 12 pounds, I need something to wear. So I’ve been wandering into Kohls, Dress Barn and other stores looking for dress pants, skirts and nice tops.

What happened to dress pants in the last five years? I can’t find a pair without a yoga style or elastic waist. If I tuck in a shirt they look like crap, not to mention the way they keep sliding down my butt. I know my butt is bigger than it used to be but really! What happened to zippers, snaps and belt loops?

Also, can I please have a pair of jeans without Lycra or Spandex? I would like a pair of denim jeans, again with buttons, snaps or zippers. I can live with the low rise jeans but please let me zip or button them closed.

And I would like sleeves in my shirts too. It seems everything I’m finding is tank style or has cuts in the sleeves so they might as well be sleeveless. And the material – I would like to put on a T-shirt and not have everyone see the color of my bra underneath. I’m beginning to see why people still do the 90’s layering thing, it’s so you don’t see their nipples.

For a while I thought it might be the stores I’m shopping in, so I popped into Nordstroms. Guess what? Same crap, higher prices. I’ve come to the conclusion though that I must be shopping in the wrong places so I’m going to start asking people who are wearing the styles I’m looking for where they shop. After all, someone must still have clothes I can wear out there somewhere.

Saving things for later is another form of procrastination

For Mothers Day my husband gave me a gift basket which included a bath bomb.  I had never had a bath bomb before but it looked like a larger version of the bath cubes I used to have which took forever to dissolve.  In my mind, I planned to save it for later.  Save it for a time when I would take a really long soak.  

Today I finished a fantastic leadership/public speaking course called leadership from the heart.  My feet were sore, my voice was shot, I was physically drained and still on an emotional high.  I realized this would be the perfect time for that long soak in the tub.  I turned on the water and dropped the bath bomb in.

It was a bomb, alright! There was a plop and a POP!  The bath bomb exploded and the scent of wildflowers filled the room. 

I realized that I had mistaken what the gift really was.  I had preconceived notions which limited my desire to use it.  I thought it was going to fizz and take a long time to dissolve.  Instead, it was quick and because I was not mindful in the moment of it’s use, I missed seeing it explode, I heard it and saw/smelled the result. 

Since I was still in that coachable mindset, I saw the parallels.  How many times have I procrastinated things thinking that they would be long, arduous processes?  What if that was incorrect thinking?  What if things things I’ve been thinking are big hairy monsters are actually cute little puppies run through my scary filter? How many times have I missed things because I was not fully present in the moment? 

Even worse, how many times have I judged people from things in my past experience instead of who they are really?  How many times have I stopped seeking to understand based on something they said or did that triggered me?  And turning that around, how many times have others stopped listening to me because they judged me?  

To end on a lighter note, I will definitely be getting more bath bombs and using them frequently. 

Have I mentioned I love my job?

In June 2011, I got laid off from a job that paid well but didn’t offer any challenge.  It was with a software arm of an accounting firm, specializing in government fringe benefit accounting.  Ever felt really great after a supposed “bad” thing happens?  The day after my lay-off was one of the best days of my life.

I love the networking that comes with a job hunt and met some incredible people.  And I still have a few people who I need to have lunch with in the next few months.  Anyway, 6 informational interviews and 2 real interviews with my current employer got me a Business Analyst job with a company which owns multiple banks.

I love what I do!  I’m in charge of “marketing” the abilities of some ECM applications to our affiliates.  I love hearing how people are doing things, listening to how they want to improve and helping them find solutions to their pain points.  In addition, training is a huge thing where I work.  I’m getting a week of Microsoft BA training this month and I have a week long BA Bootcamp in May.  And this is on top of the leadership training I’ve already had since I started!  

There isn’t a point to this post other than to say – I love what I do and where I work.

Been trying to avoid talking about work ….

When I started working, I worked for an incredible woman who taught me that the client mattered more than anything at the office because the client ultimately paid our paychecks. Over the years, the company has moved away from that philosophy and I missed it. I’m now in training with a new employer and I’m loving how the emphasis is on doing the right thing for the customer whether or not it means we’ll get a sale. What’s best for the client is the best thing for the company.

I’m sorry in a way that this is just a temporary job – I wish more company’s thought this way.