Don’t know why this is bothering me…

A friend of mine recently had this comment posted in response to a post she published on Facebook.

“Im sorry, I use facebook for healthy social interaction with friends and family. I didnt realize it was a complaint forum. Vent elsewhere please dear.”

What kind of gall does one have in order to tell someone else how to use Facebook?  And if we start dissecting the comment, the first thing that strikes me is “healthy social interaction with friends and family.”  How is posting a mean comment like this a “healthy social interaction?”  And if this is a “healthy social interaction,” how dysfunctional is your family? 
Next let’s look at the grammar. I have a new tablet which is still learning my typing and word style, yet I can still use punctuation; although it wants to put random ms in my sentences.
Third, let’s  talk about the forum.  This was posted in response to a public post on Facebook. If you don’t want to see something, in the right corner of each post is an option to hide it.

Wait, it just hit me: was the poster apologizing for using Facebook the way she does? If so, why include the other two sentences?

I don’t really know why I can’t let this go.  After all, it has nothing to do with me, really.  It was just a comment on someone’s Facebook post which appeared on my feed. Originally I was offended by the sheer rudeness.  And I’m still offended.  Hopefully, posting this will get it out of my head.

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  1. It’s definitely rude, and so holier than thou that I would be sorely tempted into posting “F*** you” right on there (ok, I lie, I’d just delete her from my friends list).
    I can use my FB however I want – for serious business, for foolishnesss, venting, or cat pictures. Not only was it rude for her to decide how everyone *should* use FB, it was rather snotty of her to play the one-upsmanship game by implying that she uses it “better” than someone else. And don’t get me started on the “sorry, not sorry” BS.

    Which brings me back to “eff you, lady”

  2. Jenn L in Chicago

     /  January 21, 2015

    The comment is passive aggressive bullpocky. The person making the comment is no friend, and the person whose post she commented on would be best served by cutting that woman out of her life and eliminating the negativity from her circle of influence.

    • I kept wondering if she was a family member of the person she commented on since usually only family is that rude.

      • Probably why the number of family members on my friends list has been rapidly dwindling.

  3. She is “family” if the person in question (in-law of some type, I believe), but I use family in the loosest legal sense. To me, family wouldn’t do that, and certainly not in public! I’m with you, it has bothered me since I saw it, and it has clearly had an effect on the person to whom it was said, too.

  4. Definitely rude. I figure people can use their Facebook walls for whatever they want. I don’t tend to argue with people on Facebook, but if they post something with which I disagree I scroll on by. If someone needs to vent about something on Facebook, what’s the harm? That post seemed pretty condescending. Adding “dear” to it makes it really rude, IMHO.

  5. Needles, Floss, & Applesauce

     /  April 14, 2015

    Yeah, that’s mean to post under someone’s venting post. Like you said, if you don’t want to see it, hide the post. How many things do I see that annoy me? I just keep scrolling and keep my comments to myself.


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