Some funerals you go to because you respected the deceased and want to show your respect. Others you go because you respect the remaining family members and want to be there to support them and show you care. Some I go to because I don’t want to disappoint family members who are expecting me to be there.
My family has always tried to put the Fun in funeral. We view them as a celebration of passage from one life to the next, just as a birth is a passage from pre-mortal existence to this plain. Both events should be celebrated. Death is a graduation from this world to the better one to come. I really enjoyed seeing all my cousins at the funeral last week, even if I really didn’t feel like going since I’m sick as a dog this weekend.